There is this guy im crazy over with, and he is leaving town soon. Back; i don't know when. It is practical that people will say: "I AM GONNA FORGET HIM". Even i say that. But it never come true. The more I think i am going to forget him, the more i feel that :
Hey, there is no point. The more I tell myself, the more i can't forget.
So, the only way to actually forget that person, is to find someone else and slowly, you will get over him. That is the only way that work i guess :/ I know it is super mean, but there is nothing you can do about it.
What is love?
I wrote this in my personal blog sometime ago.
definination:
love :
1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
2. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
3.
a) Sexual passion.
b) Sexual intercourse.
c) A love affair.
4. An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
5. A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.
6.An expression of one's affection: Send him my love.
7.
a) A strong predilection or enthusiasm: a love of language.
b) The object of such an enthusiasm: The outdoors is her greatest love.
8. Love Mythology Eros or Cupid.
9. Often Love Christianity Charity.
10.Sports A zero score in tennis.
loved, lov·ing, loves v. tr.
1. To have a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward (a person): We love our parents. I love my friends.
2. To have a feeling of intense desire and attraction toward (a person).
3. To have an intense emotional attachment to: loves his house.
4.
a) To embrace or caress.
b) To have sexual intercourse with.
6. To like or desire enthusiastically: loves swimming.
7. Theology To have charity for.
8. To thrive on; need: The cactus loves hot, dry air.
http://www.dictionary.com/
There are so many meanings to it. From here, I want to believe that everyone looks at love differently. After talking to MIA alliance about it and thinking, and analysing it for a long time. I am going to share how I look at it.
There are 5 types of people that looks at love their own way generally :
1) Me to All
These kind of people love everyone. Love to them is very general. Simple. They just love you because you exist. Nothing else in particular. This is called simple love.
2) One to One
This is mainly for couples, boy-girl relationships. This is where both parties are affectionate to each other. The way they express their love to one another is different compared to the way they express their love to others. From here, i agree with *MATRIX* that it may be simple AND complicated at the same time. Love is actually very simple, but it is the factors that make it complicated. Certain conflicts and arguments lead to whether this love is simple or complicated.
3) The Flirts
These kind of people are called bastards or bitches normally. However, it is another kind of love they are experiencing. Insted of giving love to others, they receive it. The so-called love they get, is from the satisfaction of being able to have or to take control of many people at one time. To them it is like a challenge. You see, they can go around saying "I love you" to anyone. Furthermore, they change their targets very quickly. Some people may fall for their traps, some are smart enough to escape. Think about the Lion. This lion is hungry and it needs to hunt for food. It sees a deer first! So naturally, it will go for the deer. If it succeeds, it will go look for other animals. But, if it fails, it looks for other animals, maybe its a weak baby zebra, or it may be a huge hippopotamus. It is obvious that hunting a hippo is alot more difficult to hunt compared to the baby zebra. You see the challenge here? That's why. Love is nothing more than a challenge.
4) Lust
These people's love is purely lust. Do you know why lust is still considered as a kind of love? This is because when one says that he/she is in love with the other, he would not be able to differentiate between lust or love. Thus, i still classify it as a portion of love. These people feel that being sexually related, would mean love. If you disagree on this fact. How many times have you heard of "If you love me, you will have sex with me" ? These people clearly need lust and NOT love ! Therefore, they do not know how to differentiate love and lust. So, Love is Lust to them, as simple as that.
5) Gays and Lesbians
Honestly speaking, I am not very sure about how they feel towards each other, because this is not common in our lives. To put it straight, this is a mixture and complication of feelings. After they feel the "Me to All" love, they take a greater step unknowingly, resulting in a mixture of "Me to you " love and "One to One" love. Therefore, many people would say that their love is very complicated and unusual. After the mixture, they are unsure of these feelings. From this step, either they stop or they continue. Which means, if they realise that its wrong, they would take a step back. However, most lesbians and gays do not realise it. It happens when both sides of the party do not realise it. Resulting in Lesbians and Gays. This is also a kind of love.
This is how i classify love. They are simple yet complicated. Hope you guys see why it is now. Many also claim love is painful, love is blind , love is "emoness" . Why is that so?
1) Love is Painful
"Me to All"
Most of the time, when someone passes away, they feel painful. Therefore, this love is painful.
"One to One"
This is usually felt, not because that person leaves you, it's because of the feeling of not being accompanied. For example, why are some people able to get over the relationship once another person steps into their life? Its because of the accompany they get, it replaces their feelings. Same for the memories. One's memories would be blurred, if another one steps into their life. This love is painful to them.
"The Flirts"
Simple, they will feel that love is painful, because they loose the fight. The failure is their pain.
"Lust"
They are unable to get the lust they need time after time. That's their pain.
"Lesbians and Gays"
I think they feel the pain because the relationship is unusual and not permitted in common society. They are often discrimminated by the society people causing their pain and discomfort. Therefore, this love is painful.
2) Love is blind
Love IS blind, if you accept everything coming in your way, with regards to love. Which means you do not decide for yourself, and you let the other party decide for you. During that period, you will be unclear of what you are doing. That's why love IS blind.
Love is also NOT blind. The other way round, you lead your own love life. You are aware of your surroundings, love would not be blind.
3) Love is emoness
Emo-ness is also called, being emotional.Your emotions and thoughts cause you to cry or hurt yourself. The way you see love and the way you solve the problem , will either lead you to emoness or not. If you look at it in a positive way, you would not feel that way. However, if you look at it in a negative way, it is emoness for you.
You can agree or disagree to it.
I would be lovely to give me a comment on how you feel about it.
Please leave your name . (:
Thank you.
So, the only way to actually forget that person, is to find someone else and slowly, you will get over him. That is the only way that work i guess :/ I know it is super mean, but there is nothing you can do about it.
What is love?
I wrote this in my personal blog sometime ago.
definination:
love :
1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
2. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
3.
a) Sexual passion.
b) Sexual intercourse.
c) A love affair.
4. An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
5. A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.
6.An expression of one's affection: Send him my love.
7.
a) A strong predilection or enthusiasm: a love of language.
b) The object of such an enthusiasm: The outdoors is her greatest love.
8. Love Mythology Eros or Cupid.
9. Often Love Christianity Charity.
10.Sports A zero score in tennis.
loved, lov·ing, loves v. tr.
1. To have a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward (a person): We love our parents. I love my friends.
2. To have a feeling of intense desire and attraction toward (a person).
3. To have an intense emotional attachment to: loves his house.
4.
a) To embrace or caress.
b) To have sexual intercourse with.
6. To like or desire enthusiastically: loves swimming.
7. Theology To have charity for.
8. To thrive on; need: The cactus loves hot, dry air.
http://www.dictionary.com/
There are so many meanings to it. From here, I want to believe that everyone looks at love differently. After talking to MIA alliance about it and thinking, and analysing it for a long time. I am going to share how I look at it.
There are 5 types of people that looks at love their own way generally :
1) Me to All
These kind of people love everyone. Love to them is very general. Simple. They just love you because you exist. Nothing else in particular. This is called simple love.
2) One to One
This is mainly for couples, boy-girl relationships. This is where both parties are affectionate to each other. The way they express their love to one another is different compared to the way they express their love to others. From here, i agree with *MATRIX* that it may be simple AND complicated at the same time. Love is actually very simple, but it is the factors that make it complicated. Certain conflicts and arguments lead to whether this love is simple or complicated.
3) The Flirts
These kind of people are called bastards or bitches normally. However, it is another kind of love they are experiencing. Insted of giving love to others, they receive it. The so-called love they get, is from the satisfaction of being able to have or to take control of many people at one time. To them it is like a challenge. You see, they can go around saying "I love you" to anyone. Furthermore, they change their targets very quickly. Some people may fall for their traps, some are smart enough to escape. Think about the Lion. This lion is hungry and it needs to hunt for food. It sees a deer first! So naturally, it will go for the deer. If it succeeds, it will go look for other animals. But, if it fails, it looks for other animals, maybe its a weak baby zebra, or it may be a huge hippopotamus. It is obvious that hunting a hippo is alot more difficult to hunt compared to the baby zebra. You see the challenge here? That's why. Love is nothing more than a challenge.
4) Lust
These people's love is purely lust. Do you know why lust is still considered as a kind of love? This is because when one says that he/she is in love with the other, he would not be able to differentiate between lust or love. Thus, i still classify it as a portion of love. These people feel that being sexually related, would mean love. If you disagree on this fact. How many times have you heard of "If you love me, you will have sex with me" ? These people clearly need lust and NOT love ! Therefore, they do not know how to differentiate love and lust. So, Love is Lust to them, as simple as that.
5) Gays and Lesbians
Honestly speaking, I am not very sure about how they feel towards each other, because this is not common in our lives. To put it straight, this is a mixture and complication of feelings. After they feel the "Me to All" love, they take a greater step unknowingly, resulting in a mixture of "Me to you " love and "One to One" love. Therefore, many people would say that their love is very complicated and unusual. After the mixture, they are unsure of these feelings. From this step, either they stop or they continue. Which means, if they realise that its wrong, they would take a step back. However, most lesbians and gays do not realise it. It happens when both sides of the party do not realise it. Resulting in Lesbians and Gays. This is also a kind of love.
This is how i classify love. They are simple yet complicated. Hope you guys see why it is now. Many also claim love is painful, love is blind , love is "emoness" . Why is that so?
1) Love is Painful
"Me to All"
Most of the time, when someone passes away, they feel painful. Therefore, this love is painful.
"One to One"
This is usually felt, not because that person leaves you, it's because of the feeling of not being accompanied. For example, why are some people able to get over the relationship once another person steps into their life? Its because of the accompany they get, it replaces their feelings. Same for the memories. One's memories would be blurred, if another one steps into their life. This love is painful to them.
"The Flirts"
Simple, they will feel that love is painful, because they loose the fight. The failure is their pain.
"Lust"
They are unable to get the lust they need time after time. That's their pain.
"Lesbians and Gays"
I think they feel the pain because the relationship is unusual and not permitted in common society. They are often discrimminated by the society people causing their pain and discomfort. Therefore, this love is painful.
2) Love is blind
Love IS blind, if you accept everything coming in your way, with regards to love. Which means you do not decide for yourself, and you let the other party decide for you. During that period, you will be unclear of what you are doing. That's why love IS blind.
Love is also NOT blind. The other way round, you lead your own love life. You are aware of your surroundings, love would not be blind.
3) Love is emoness
Emo-ness is also called, being emotional.Your emotions and thoughts cause you to cry or hurt yourself. The way you see love and the way you solve the problem , will either lead you to emoness or not. If you look at it in a positive way, you would not feel that way. However, if you look at it in a negative way, it is emoness for you.
You can agree or disagree to it.
I would be lovely to give me a comment on how you feel about it.
Please leave your name . (:
Thank you.
